It seems like it's been forever since I've posted a blog post, but i want to let my supporters know that I haven't abandoned my blog. I truly apologize, but I'm back now in full effect. The month of August I was in the 'cheese state” Wisconsin serving my country by being the best soldier I could be. In the process, I missed my daughter's first few weeks of school. All of my fellow mothers know how hard that can be, but I'm very thankful for my family and her dad's family for their support. Not to mention, I had horrible service while there which made it nearly impossible for me to contact my family and friends. I'm with AT&T so while there I had to get a throw away phone (trap phone from Verizon) so that I could research fashion weeks and keep up with my business. I applied for New York Fashion Week but it was too late and then I ran across Los Angeles Fashion Week. I applied to LAFW but didn't hear anything so I got discouraged. I started doubting my abilities and really just started losing faith, so I put that energy into my wardrobe/makeup room/office (I didn't realize how expensive this actually was). I did a lot of Do It Yourself projects to save money on things I liked on Pinterest.
Eventually months go by and I'm content working my regular jobs and finishing this room when finally 3 weeks ago I received an email that I was selected to be a part of Los Angeles Fashion Week. I was excited (but not excited at the same time). I'm a single mother who is barely making "ends meet". I just knew this was something God had planned for me, so I made my mind that nothing would stop me from making this trip. Moreover, I have a lot of pride when it comes to asking people for help (especially strangers), so after a couple of days of contemplation I finally built the courage to create a GoFundMe account. My initial goal was $3500 to cover expenses and also time away from work. It was my first GoFundMe so I didn't know how it would turn out but I kept the faith. In the process, I learned a lot about the people in my life and found out who my true supporters were. The ones I actually anticipated would support me, didn't support me at all. In contrast, the ones I least expected to support me, supported me and I am forever grateful. I also understand that it was short notice so it was like, okay it's life. Furthermore, I had people say I am going to support you and even provide dates but never donated so I was like, okay why did you even volunteer? Long story short, I ended up raising $600 which was good for my first GoFundMe, so I booked my flight at the last minute because I had to wait on the money (which meant I had to extend my time longer than expected). To make matters worse, the hotels were extremely expensive because I wanted to be closer to the event area which was in West Hollywood so my dumb ass booked a hotel in Pasadena for 3 nights thinking I had a good deal in Los Angeles. I found out later that I could have saved money by staying at this other hotel for $28 a night which I ended up stayingSunday through Tuesday.
I arrived in LAX and thought it was cheaper to rent a car but didn't have money on my PayPal nor my bank card. I only had $170 in cash on me for a 5 day trip. When I tell you I made that shit work and how blessed I was through this entire process. I had friends and family put money on my PayPal so I can pay for Lyft and Uber Pool. I'm from Starkville, Mississippi, so of course Uber was new to me. I was scared and in this new place all alone but to be honest it was the best experience because they were really nice and a majority of them were in the entertainment industry so I networked too. I depended on this individual to help me but this person lied two weeks straight and also lied during the trip that they would help me. Never helped and left me stranded so this person is no longer a part of my life. For those wondering how I made $170 work for an entire week, here's how I did it: I ate once a day, ate complimentary breakfast, and didn't go out or shop.
The experience of fashion week was the best ever. I networked with some amazing people and made some great associates. I was able to be a part of something I loved and very passionate about. It was long hours but I truly can't complain. I also had the opportunity to work with an amazing photographer to shoot my pictures. After 4 days of fashion shows, i researched events in the LA Fashion District. Just my luck, there was a trades show that Monday. I was able to network with some amazing designers and boutique owners to ensure that I have the best of the best for my future project. I just knew that this trip was the best decision I made and I don't regret it. Overall, California is at the top of my list to visit again and maybe reside in the future. I learned a lot about myself and people. I learned that I can do anything by myself and I don't need confirmation anymore. I also learned it's okay to take risks that people will never understand but as long as you understand and it makes you happy, then it's all worth it. I learn to not put too much energy into people and to stop depending on others to help you. Never worry about what the next person can do for you, that way you're never disappointed. In addition, I learned to appreciate the support team you have and don't dwell on the support you're lacking. My entire life was "Uncovered" in 5 short days and I am a new person.