Sarah Neely

Women for Women

Sarah Neely
Women for Women

I can't stand that bitch, she thinks she is all that. 

As women, regardless of our best intentions, our first instinct is to compare ourselves to other women around us. We compare appearances, relationships, careers and talents which can lead to envy and an unhealthy sense of competitiveness. 

Depending on the setting, competition can be a positive thing, especially when it drives out more effort into bettering yourself but when it comes from a negative place of envy or comparison, it will harm relationships with other women and it can also damage our self-worth. 

Many women don't support other women because they are afraid that the woman may advance in their career faster. This is a very jealous trait. No matter the occupation, what God has for you is for you. These types of women in the workforce are usually aggressive bitches, two faced passive aggressive bitches or the tuned out indifferent bitch. They will do anything in their power to belittle you, be rude towards you, be messy with others or even go to the extent of trying to bully you. These women are threatened by you and 9 times out of 10 jealous of you but I learned what makes them angry is to be nice to them. Those types of females will hate you more seeing that you don't give a damn and the fact that you can still be cordial at the same time. So if you are experiencing this at your job, remember it's not you, it's those type of females who doesn't know how to support other women due to their own insecurities. 

Many women also don't support other women over some stupid ass man. Either her man had some type of dealings with you or maybe their friends or family had some type of dealings with him. It's never about you. Women want to put the blame on another woman so she doesn't have to face the fact that she is a jealous insecure bitch, then we have a one sided disagreement because 9 times out 10 the other woman don't give a damn. Not to mention we have the man that's playing both women, so yes instead of the woman getting upset with the man and taking her frustrations out on him, it seems like we have to claim our territory by competing with the other women so she can see that she isn't getting their man. In reality, this man knows that neither one of the women are going anywhere so he enjoys the fact that he has two women fighting over him when he knows he isn't shit. So then the shit spread like an epidemic because then the women carried these insecurities over to every relationship they have (including friendship with women). Yes men's actions can affect relationships with women so women we have to be strong and realize we have the power to control our relationships and stop fighting with females over a dumb ass boy who doesn't even give you the respect you deserve. Know your worth. 

Many women won't support other women entrepreneurs because she may be doing something in the same field as you. Newsflash the arts field and any entrepreneurship field have over 100,000 people going after the same dream. It doesn't mean you all have the same goals. God made you in a unique way and gave you a purpose just like the next so why not help the next woman out.  Stop being envious because she has more clients or because she is getting more recognition, maybe she is putting herself with the right connects. We all have them. Maybe she is sacrificing a little more. Maybe it's her damn season. Don't try to bring her down just because you are not in the position to win yet. We all are going to win just not at the same time. Its life, get over it and stop spreading that disease by throwing shade to other entrepreneurs because you are jealous of her success. News flash, just because you were doing your profession for more years doesn't mean people are trying to be like you. God didn't make that position just for you, he blessed other women with the same gift and passion as you so stop saying that bullshit "she is trying to be like me or everyone is trying to do what I'm doing now". God's purpose for that woman isn't the same as yours, so help one another and stop trying to do everything because no matter how good you are no one can do it alone. Recommend other women who can get the job done. Don't be afraid to help other women. Sew that seed into someone with your knowledge.  Trust me, more blessings will come. 

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

Photographed by Divian Conner

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