Sarah Neely

Stop Explaining Yourself!

Sarah Neely
Stop Explaining Yourself!

Stop apologizing for being you!  

Are you the type of person who needs to apologize for everything that you do?  Do you worry about what other people think of you? 

If this is not you, then read no further because this article is not for you.

I’m writing this for the “explainers” out there and it doesn’t matter if you explain to parents, partners, or priests. You know who you are!

There are some people around the world (no matter what) that are perfectionist and people pleasers. If they make even the smallest mistake, no matter if it’s on the job, casually playing, or even having fun, they will apologize. You also have the type of people who will apologize if they may not understand anything you are saying and then try to explain themselves afterwards. They habitually apologize for every small and insignificant thing. No matter if you try to ease the person or say “don’t worry, it’s ok, it’s no problem” these type of people still feel that same urge to apologize and explain themselves. This says a lot of the “explainers” self esteem. You start feeling like you are not as good as other people and you start feeling that everyone else’s thoughts and feelings are way more important than your own. You also stop doing what you want and being who you want to be because you fear of upsetting and offending people. 

I’m not saying it’s not human nature to care about other people’s thoughts and feelings but if you constantly doing the exact same thing and don’t balance it right, you will only end up sabotaging your own self esteem. This affects your social life. You begin having social anxiety because you care too much about what other people think, so you begging, changing how you act, look, what you do just to try to fit in.  Stop that shit!  Eventually this just erodes your uniqueness and your feelings of self-worth.  You are not a silent, timid drone who is scared to voice your own opinion. You shouldn’t be on the edge just in case you offend someone with your honesty. No one in this world is “YOU.”  God made us different for a reason. You have something no one will ever have. You have to always think like that. Don’t ever allow anyone to define who you are. It’s ok!  If they can’t accept that, then fuck them. They are not meant to be in your life nor be blessed with your uniqueness. 

Once you realize who you are, it will enable you to stand up for yourself.  Have some self belief and you will stop caring so much what others might think. You will no longer feel the need to receive validation from everyone you meet. You will understand that you are who you are and that’s just fine with you. You’re still going to make plenty of mistakes but you won’t destroy your self esteem. Just give yourself the chance for your confidence to grow; you’ll be amazed how much better you feel when you no longer worry about what everyone thinks.

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

 Photographed by  Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

Photographed by Stanley Parrish

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