Do you ever feel like it’s hard finding good help from people who understand your vision as well as you do?
Personally, I am a perfectionist when it comes to my talent as a stylist. Anything else that I do, sometimes it doesn’t bother me as much if something goes wrong (don’t get me wrong I care but I don’t care if you understand what I’m saying). I always want any styling event, gig, or anyone I’m styling to go perfect. I am my own worst critic. I go hard for the things I truly am passionate about. I work my ass off just to make sure things go accordingly but as a stylist I learned that some people simply don’t give a damn about your projects as much as you do. Some will be quick to jump on a mission (just to be a part of it) but won’t truly be all in. Some may feel like it’s just something she is trying to do, it’s not important, and won’t give their full effort. In many cases, some may even flake on you at the last minute (I know life happens and I’m totally ok with that, but only if you communicate it) so once those things go wrong, it’s like your anxiety goes into overload because you have to fix your plan A in less than 10 minutes because you have other artists that are included in your projects that may have cleared their entire schedules or even traveled far just to be a part of your vision. I don’t like wasting people’s time. It’s truly a big pet-peeve of mine. I always like to remain professional and have a good reliable working relationship with anyone I do business with. I never want to be that girl that is unorganized, unprofessional and unreliable. Their flaking forces me to have to explain myself and put a poker face on or pretend everything is going ok, when it reality I truly want to break down and cry because I worked so hard for this project to come together. It gets frustrating and sometimes hard as hell because people often don’t see the bigger picture of a project and I get people don’t think like I do. I remember I broke down one time at a shoot because the photographer flaked on me. At that time I had never done this in front of people I worked with and I usually only do it alone but when I say these were the most understanding women I ever met. Not to mention my daughter came along and she made me feel even better (yes that’s my cheerleader right there). It made me realize it is ok and things in life happen and it’s out of your control. It’s just when you love something so much and you see the vision so clear it just gets overwhelming when people are not on the same accord as you. Let me make this clear, no I’m not talking about anyone in particular. I’m just venting about some things that I have experienced throughout my years as a stylist. Not to mention throughout my years as a stylist I have worked and still work with some amazing creative’s. It’s a few that I consider as my friends and a few I consider business associates. Each of those individuals inspires me in more ways than anyone I ever known. Yes being a stylist in the industry is cut throat. You have to have thick skin, your own voice and knowledge. There are people waiting to see you fail and to call you out on your bullshit. You also have others who will try to steer you from your original vision because they feel like theirs sound better, then you have those that steal your ideas and use as their own. That’s when you have to speak up, you have to stand for what you want and believe in and mean that shit. Furthermore, you have people who will never understand your vision and will talk down on it but as long you believe in yourself, don’t let an outsider who doesn’t compare to your gift tell you shit about your talent. Most importantly, don’t be that person that makes excuses when you agree to do a paid or free project for someone at the last minute. Don’t be that person who doesn’t care how a creative project turns out because you don’t see the vision. If you are a part of it, your name is on it too so it represents you and your brand. Don’t be that person that steals other people’s ideas and use as your own. Last but not least, stop talking down on people just because you don’t like what they are doing and how they are doing it. That shit takes up too much energy and time to sit and watch someone work you don’t like. Chill with that shit and learn how to perfect your craft because we are all learning everyday and there is always room for improvement.
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